Facing your fears: #Ihaveguts

27 Aug
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The Great Wall of China

 

“I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do.”

― Edward Everett Hale

 

 

 

It’s indelibly engrained in my memory of being 13 years old – Katie W running full pelt towards me, lacrosse stick poised to tackle. She was confident, focused and fierce and I didn’t feel any of those things, rather just rising fear and panic. I’m absolutely certain that my team mate only passed me the ball as a last resort. Of course, Katie tackled the ball away from me all too easily and charged forward and scored. Groans from my team, humiliation for me.

Of course the humiliation would have been easier to bear if I was only awful at lacrosse but no, I was dreadful at all sports. I had talent at missing rounders balls when I was batting, for serving double faults on a tennis court, for missing the netball goal pretty much every time and for being the most inflexible person ever in gymnastics. My saving grace was that I could swim well even if not particularly quickly – as my performance in my one and only swimming gala would prove – oh but with ‘such a lovely style’ (thank goodness for mothers!). My teenage years saw me use every possible trick in the book to avoid participating in any school sports whatsoever.

In fact I’ve avoided it and every other physical challenge (apart from some fell walking) ever since. I’ve cheered others on but have always claimed to myself at least, that I can’t because:
– I’ve a dodgy back and painful feet
– I get very dizzy looking up (weirdly)
– I commute far too much (5 hours a day, 4 days a week) and it wouldn’t be fair to take any more time away from my children to enable me to get fit…
– I will look totally stupid and am bound to fail anyway.

The inner dialogue is now so well-rehearsed that my doubting self has defeated me before I’ve even started.

As someone who tries to live life with a “can do” attitude taking positive action rather than being a bystander, this “can’t do”  attitude feels really out of character but it’s so deeply entrenched in my psyche that I have found it hard to overcome. Now, finally I’m going to change that.

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I am determined to overcome my fear, step out of my comfort zone and take action to show my support for people affected by advanced bowel cancer as part of Bowel Cancer UK’s Time For Guts campaign. Because too many people are dying early and we want to change that. I know we can make an impact but first we need to find a way to fund the campaign and any new services we develop.

 

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That’s why we are asking people to step outside their comfort zone and to be sponsored to do so. That doesn’t have to mean taking on the Marathon de Sables, an Everest expedition or even a tight rope walk on a high wire. Just something you need guts to do – whatever that is for you.

So I’m going to tackle my fear of physical challenges and go to China to trek on the Great Wall. It’s a couple of night flights and 7 days of trekking with 30 people I have not met before, who from the facebook group I’ve now joined all appear to be much younger and more organised than me. We will be staying in different places in rural China including some farmers houses – the fear of inadequate, or worse no, showers and loos is a leitmotif of the facebook group conversation!

Rafi and me!

Having delayed signing up, I’ve rather belatedly started to train in an attempt to get into shape and so accompanied by my dog Rafi, I am discovering hitherto unknown paths through the beautiful Cotswolds countryside as I try to build up my miles. The positive effect exercise and fresh air has on my mood and feeling of mental wellness has been duly noted.

I’ve even been cycling again, retrieved my step trainer from the garage and am walking every set of stairs I come across – yes I’ve even joined the ranks of the odd people who walk up London tube stairs! So far all this has proven to me is that I am miles and miles away from being fit enough to cope with what look like remarkably steep sections of the Great Wall. When I walk fells in the Lakes, once a year, I have my husband and sons to pull me up – I can take a break and admire the views rather regularly – but in China my support network has gone and I really can’t hold everyone up. Just the thought of it makes my stomach churn!

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Yet failure is not an option. I’m doing this for a reason, people are dying needlessly, in fact during the seven days I am trekking around 310 people will die in the UK of bowel cancer. So I will carry my purpose mindfully with me through every steep step and hope that my determination to save lives will carry me through.

Please sponsor me if you can and ask your friends and family too!  I’ve paid all the costs myself, so everything I raise will go straight to the charity. www.justgiving.com/deborahalsina1.

Thank you in advance. 

 

 

 

Bowel Cancer UK is determined to save lives and improve the quality of life for all those affected by bowel cancer.  We achieve this by: 

  • Championing early diagnosis
  • Improving treatment and care
  • Enabling research to save lives

 

For more information on bowel cancer, please visit Bowel Cancer UK’s website:  www.bowelcanceruk.org.uk

 

 

 

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2 Responses to “Facing your fears: #Ihaveguts”

  1. Lesley Shannon August 27, 2014 at 4:55 pm #

    Well done Deborah before you conquer the Great Wall of China, you have already conquered your fear by signing up to do such a selfless and amazing act for others. when you are there no matter how hard it is I know you will think of the 310 people who may die from bowel cancer in the time you are trekking. You will not fail, it is not an option as I know you are doing it thinking of all those who have died of bowel cancer too young already and I admire you taking up this challenge. We will all be behind you and as soon as I can afford to I will of course sponsor you, with pleasure. Well done, Go Deborah, lovely lady. So proud of you, Laura will be looking down on you and willing you on when you feel you don’t have any strength left to carry on. You will do it. Time for Guts x Take care, we will all be with you all the way rooting for you. Well Done x

    • deborahalsina August 27, 2014 at 7:01 pm #

      That’s so kind Lesley, thank you. You can be sure that Laura and you will be with me every step of the way. Hope I can do you proud. xx

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